I’m really into sciences and all that stuff, so one night I read this article about icebergs. I learned that icebergs are pieces of ice that formed on land and float in an ocean or lake. Icebergs vary in shapes and sizes, they can range from ice-cube-sized chunks to ice islands the size of a small country. In order to be considered an actual “iceberg” it must measure at least 16 feet across on top. The tip or top of the Iceberg or the part that you can actually see above the surface is the smallest part. So as big as an Iceberg may appear on top, there is so much more below the surface that you cannot see.
As I am reading this it made me think about when we look at other people and we compare our lives to other people’s lives. When we compare our cars to other people’s cars and our wardrobes to other people’s and our jobs and careers to other people’s. Comparing our lives and our circumstances Its kinda like looking at an iceberg. You may see the money and the car and the job or the life that another person has. That is “The tip of the Iceberg”. Because what you can’t see or don’t know is that the person who you look at and envy their job or career, you couldn’t see the hours, days, weeks, months or years of work and neglecting their families that they had to put into it. You can’t see that maybe they have a horrible home life because they neglected their families and put their careers over their families and that they are on the verge of divorce and their children don’t want anything to do with them. You didn’t know or couldn’t see that the person who drives that big fancy car that you envy, lost a parent, child, spouse or a loved one and got the money to buy that car in a life insurance settlement. That person whose wardrobe that you admire and wish you had, you couldn’t see that their children have no food in the refrigerator and the bills and past due notices and shut off notices are stacked up and that they are on the verge of eviction just so that they can “look” good. That person you know who seems to have the “Perfect” spouse who is so good looking and “appears” to be perfect and you just envy that persons relationship. But, what you can’t see is that person who has that perfect spouse that and perfect relationship that you envy, is on their third trip to rehab because they are helping that “perfect” spouse or mate deal with an addiction to drugs or alcohol. Or you can’t see how that “perfect” spouse mentally, verbally or physically abuses that person you envy so much behind closed doors.
I have learned that people are like icebergs, what you can’t see, the part that is buried and hidden, is way bigger than the part that you can see (the surface). What you can see is NOTHING in comparison to what you can’t see or what you don’t know. I have learned that when it comes to life and measuring our own individual progress in life. We are best if we only compared ourselves to ourselves. We are best if we set our own individual goals and had our own individual dreams and that’s what we use to measure how successful we are in life. Use your own personal goals and dreams as a bench mark to determine where you are in life. You don’t know enough about anybody else’s life or circumstances to be comparing your life and circumstances to. There is no way to accurately judge yourself or your success in life by measuring it against others. You don’t have enough information. How would you solve the math problem 7 + __ = __? You will NEVER have enough information to fill in the blanks of other people’s lives. Are you willing to go through what they have gone through to get what they got? Are you willing to accept the “bad” that comes along with their “good”? Are you willing to give up what they gave up to get what they got?
Just KNOW that YOU are beautiful if YOU say YOU are. YOU are successful if YOU say YOU are. YOU are a winner if YOU say YOU are! NO ONES LIFE SHOULD BE ABLE TO DEFINE YOUR LIFE BUT YOURS!
A wise woman once told me that….
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” ~Maya Angelou
A wise man once told me…
I cannot say this too strongly: Do not compare yourselves to others. Be true to who you are, and continue to learn with all your might. – Daisaku Ikeda
another wise man once told me that ….
Comparison is a trap. It will kill our joy. It will rob us of our peace. It makes us act foolish and stupid. It creates terrible tension in our relationships with others. So here’s what you need to focus on: Let God use you the way he sees fit to do so. – Kurt W. Bubna
You get the point.
THE ONLY COMPARISON YOU SHOULD BE MAKING OF YOURSELF IS, COMPARING YOU TO THE YOU YOU WERE YESTERDAY AND THE DAY BEFORE AND THE DAY BEFORE AND MAKING SURE THAT YOU TODAY, IS BETTER THAN THE YOU YOU WERE YESTERDAY. IF YOU KNEW LIKE I KNEW YOU WOULD CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE! THE WORLD IS YOURS!