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Touch the world

A visitor from Columbia, a visitor from South Korea, Singapore, Kenya, Calabasas, CA.  A visitor from Oslo, Norway, Brooklyn NY, Frankfurt Am Main Germany, Torre Del Greco in Naples Italy, United Kingdom, Stone Mountain GA, Sao Paulo Brazil (I do actually have a point).  When I was younger, maybe even a kid, I remember (this is No lie) when I was a kid I remember hearing this little voice inside of me that told me that I would somehow someway touch the world. I remember a kid thinking that somehow, someway I was really going to touch the world. I remember thinking that I would some day have an impact on people all over the globe. At the time I was thinking this I was just a chubby punk kid from at the time a relatively unheard of city by the name of Yonkers, New York. Time went on and I got a little older and still, no impact on anybody, no nothing. I remember thinking that little voice was some BS. That little voice was a damn liar. I aint no athlete, I aint no actor, I’m not on TV, I can’t sing or dance worth a dime. I wondered how was I supposed to have this so-called impact on the world. But, that feeling that I had that I would somehow touch the world remained. I didn’t know how I would do it but, that little voice remained.

Without giving it much thought, I just continued to walk my path. Along that path I have been a Stockbroker, Banker, Real Estate agent, Financial Advisor, Started my own businesses etc. They were all great opportunities, but I still couldn’t figure out how was I going to get to the other side of the world.  After my daughter passed away a gained new perspective on life and about seizing the day and seizing opportunities and not taking things for granted. I started encouraging people based on my own personal experiences.  After my daughter passed away that voice that i was telling you about got a little louder.  A few people had suggested to me “Hey, you should be a motivational speaker”. The first few times I heard the suggestion I chuckled it off and laughed it off thinking to myself “Who could I motivate and inspire? Aint nobody gonna listen to me. Who am I? What if I fail? What if I go and speak and nobody is motivated or nobody even pays attention? Nah, nobody will listen to me I’m just some chubby punk kid from Yonkers, NY”. It was like the Universe or GOD was calling me and I kept sending the call to Voicemail. A few more people said it and the voice got louder.  Time went on and instead of chuckling it off I remember thinking to myself what if these people and their suggestions of being a motivational speaker were the universes way of telling me that this is what I was called or put here to do. What if I was called to endure the pain of losing my little girl simply so that I could spread a message of motivation, inspiration, hope, positivity, gratitude and encouragement to others? At this point that little voice was yelling at me. The universe was calling and calling me and I kept sending it to voicemail. But, this time I decided that I was going to answer the call. I took the steps to find out what I needed to do to become a motivational speaker. One of the steps or recommendations was to join this organization named Toastmasters. I am only oneToastmasters is an organization that helps to develop public speaking skills. You meet twice a month and everyone gives speeches and practices  speaking and developing speaking skills. One night one of the members gave a speech on how to start a blog. I was intrigued from the start of her speech. I remember thinking a blog as in the internet? You mean like the World Wide Web? World Wide Web! Instantly it clicked. I now knew how I was going to touch the world. I would touch the world through the World Wide Web. I went home that night and instantly got to work on my new blog. I got it up and running and my first few posts seemed to fall flat on their faces. It seemed like no one read them and no one really cared. during my first few posts I remember thinking that “Yet once again GOD set me up to fail”. I’m writing what I felt was great stuff. Why is no one reading? Why is no one paying attention? I started to get discouraged. I wanted to stop it all together. One day a friend of mine at my job told me that she read my blog and she thought it was great.  She told me that she had been writing blogs for years and that she could help me. I took her up on her offer and she really really helped me out, she did some layout and design stuff.  She was really helpful. I just kept writing and writing and one day I got an E-mail from a lady in Norway who told me that she really loved what I was doing and she asked me to please keep doing what I was doing. A few days later I got an E-Mail from a young lady in the UK thanking me and telling me she was starting a business and when she gets down and feels like giving up, she reads my blog. It has been over a year now and I get messages and visitors from all over the world who literally thank me for sharing my experiences and doing what I do. I finally figured out how to touch the world.

It turns out after all of these years that little voice that I heard when I was a kid and that I sometime doubted along the way was right. No matter in how big or small of a way, no matter on what level, I have touched and impacted people all over the globe. I have done speaking engagements where people have thanked me a year or two later for some of the thoughts, words and ideas that I have shared. GOD called me, and I answered. Once I answered, I was given the instructions, and the path that I would need to walk was laid out before me. All I had to do was keep walking.

I could be wrong about this but I believe firmly (actually I’m going to say that I’m not wrong about this). I KNOW that EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US has that little voice inside of us that tells us everyday how great we are and that we are going to accomplish great things. But, I also know that some of us ignore that little voice. Some of us tell the little voice to “Just shut up! You don’t know what you’re talking about! I never finished High School or I never went to college or  I have battled with drugs or alcohol addiction my whole life or, I have done so much wrong and bad in my life that I can’t be capable of anything great. Some of us say I got a felony or a criminal record I aint never going to be able to do anything great. Some say I aint pretty enough, Start nowsmart enough, funny enough, tall enough I’m was adopted, my mother left me my father left me etc etc”. As a result when we get that call from GOD/The Universe we don’t think we are worthy of it, we ignore it and send it to voicemail.  But, one thing that I have learned is that you fulfilling your purpose and your destiny is an emergency GOD got work that he needs for us to do around here! We all have jobs to do, so GOD aint leaving no voicemail. GOD is going to keep calling and keep calling and keep calling and that little voice will remain until you answer. WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR CAPABILITIES AND YOUR PURPOSE AND YOUR MISSION AND WHAT YOU WERE PUT HERE TO ACCOMPLISH, YOUR OPINION OF YOURSELF DOES NOT MATTER! GOD knows you are capable of fulfilling your purpose and your mission in life. You were sent down the path that you were sent so that your life experiences can equip you with ALL of the tools that you will need to fulfill that purpose and that mission. GOD aint got no time to be fooling around. If you weren’t worthy of the dream, if you didn’t have what it took to fulfill your purpose or your dream IT WOULD HAVE NEVER BEEN GIVEN TO YOU! You are more than ready, you are more than prepared! Answer the call, start walking and as you walk, the path will be laid out before you and you will be given all of the tools that you will need a long the way…..

Remember that….

EVERYONE WHO GOT WHERE HE IS, HAD TO BEGIN WHERE HE WAS!

START WHERE YOU ARE, USE WHAT YOU HAVE, DO WHAT YOU CAN!

-Arthur Ashe

I PROMISE YOU, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH! YOU ALREADY HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO GET STARTED!

THE WORLD IS YOURS!

And by the way, thank you ALL very much for reading!

PEACE!

 

 

 

 

 

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“ICE COLD LEMONADE”

lemonade

One day as I’m coming home, I pull into the entrance to my neighborhood and I see this little maybe 11,12, 13 year old kid standing there. He has a little table set up in front of him and a red cooler on the ground next to him. On top of his table, there are a bag of fresh lemons, one of those big refrigerator dispensers of Poland Spring water, a big 5 pound bag of sugar and a stack of plastic cups. In front of his table he has this huge beautifully designed signed that says “Fresh Lemonade”.  So I drive closer to the kid and as I drive closer to the kid he’s yelling “Lemonade, Lemonade Get your ice-cold lemonade here”. This kid sounded just like the lemonade guys at the fair or just like the beer or peanut guys at professional baseball games. I’m immediately thoroughly impressed by the kid, not just because of how professional he is. I am impressed by the kid because its summertime and at a time when most kids are on vacation and either in the house watching TV or playing video games, this little kid was out here on a mission. I pull up next to the kid and I ask him how much did he want for a cup. He said “.75 cents a cup or 2 cups for $1”. I told him I didn’t have a dollar on me but let me go home and drop off my bags and I will be right out to buy some. I wondered how many people told him the same thing. How many people told him yeah yeah yeah kid, ill buy some when I come back and never came back or did come back and drove right past him. I’m sure the kid has heard that at least 10 times that day. So when I said it I expected the kid to have a look of disappointment on his face. But, I told the kid I would be right back and he said ok as though he really didn’t care if I came back or not. He seemed to just know that I wasn’t the only one who could buy his lemonade. As I drove past the kid I could hear him yell again “Lemonade, Lemonade get your ice-cold lemonade here”. I go inside of my house and drop my bags off I go in and grab a $20 bill off my dresser. I go back downstairs get in my car and pull up next to the kid and I asked him why he isn’t home playing video games or watching TV like the other kids. I asked him what made him decide to do this. With all of the enthusiasm and excitement this kid could muster he told me “2 weeks ago one of my friends made $40 standing in this same exact spot” he said “I’m gonna stand in this same exact spot until I make at least $40 too”. I asked him how much he made so far and he told me he made about $22. I’m impressed and thrilled by this kid so I gave the kid the $20 bill I told him to keep the change. I told him I was extremely proud of him and I told him to keep at it. When the kid told me that his goal was $40, I’m thinking ok he met his goal and now the lil fella would pack up his little stand and go on home and watch cartoons or something. Instead, this kid takes the $20, puts it in his little cash register (Little plastic cup on the table) thanked me a few times and went right back to business. I pulled of to and as I pulled off I could hear the little kid yell “Lemonade, Lemonade Get your ice-cold lemonade here”.  As I drive up the street, I look in my rear view mirror and I see 3 cars fly right past the kid and his lemonade stand and not give that kid or his lemonade a second thought. I watched 2 or 3 people walk past him and not even say hello to the kid. The kid could care less.

Being that I am in and have been in sales I thought about this kid for weeks. There were endless life/business lessons that we could all have learned from this little kid.

 

If you are in sales or starting a business or if you have decided to go back to school or accomplish anything in life, here are a few lessons that I thought we could all learn from this kid.

 

1) LOSE YOUR FEAR OF REJECTION

I know for a fact this kid got way more rejections that day than he did sales. Some people im sure told him “nah kid, no thanks, I’m on a diet no sugar for me”. Some people told him “No thanks, I got lemonade at home” Some people flat out told him “NO” and some people just drove or walked right past the kid and ignored him completely. But this kid wasn’t focused on those who DIDNT want lemonade. He wasn’t focused on those who weren’t interested. Instead of dwelling on those who didn’t want lemonade he focused all of his energy on doing the best he could to attract and serve those who ACTUALLY WANTED his lemonade. The few who wanted his lemonade were more important to him than the many who didn’t want it. Not everyone will want or need what you have, but some will. You are there for those who do!

 

2) DONT HARBOR ANY FEELINGS OF BITTERNESS, ANGER OR RESENTMENT

I wondered how many that day told that kid “Give me 5 minutes and I will be right back” and never showed up. I wondered if the kid ever got excited thinking about all the money he was going to get when these people “Came right back” and if he was disappointed and mad and angry and bitter when they never showed up. if he was you certainly couldn’t see it on his face or hear it in his voice. He treated every new customer like they were his first and only. He never got angry or bitter or negative he let those who lied to him, fronted on him go and he kept selling. How many of us during our process of building something, had people tell us “Yeah Yeah, I can help you, I’m gonna do this for you I’m gonna do that for you, I can do this, I can do that, I know this person I know that person” and when it comes time to help they are nowhere to be found. Wont answer your calls, wont respond to your texts and we get angry, bitter or resentful. DON’T worry about them, stay with it and eventually you will attract and come across individuals who will really support and help you. STAY FOCUSED AND STAY POSITIVE ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING!

 

3) HAVE SPECIFIC GOALS 

This kid wasn’t out there randomly or haphazardly just saying “Well hopefully I can sell as much lemonade as possible or make as much money as possible”. That kid had a hard number or goal of $40 that he was striving for and he was determined not to leave that spot until he hit it. Having a specific goal is what enabled him to endure the rejection and endure the fake supporters. Because he focused on those who could help him achieve his goals and didn’t have time to even think about those who couldn’t or wouldn’t or didn’t. His focus on his goal and his determination to meet his goal wouldn’t allow him to be sidetracked by anything else. He focused on his goal and he actually exceeded it.

 

4) SURROUND YOURSELF WITH “POSITIVE AND SUCCESSFUL DOERS” WHO WILL ENCOURAGE YOU TO “DO” IT TOO.

This kid said the reason he was out there selling lemonade was because he had a friend who DID what he was trying to do. He said if she could DO it, then he knew that he COULD DO IT TOO.  He knew that he wanted to succeed so he simply found out what those who have succeeded before him did and then he did it. Imagine if his friend would have told him that she joined a gang or started selling drugs and she made money doing it.  It’s quite possible that instead of lemonade he might have ended up in a gang or selling drugs too. The kid was associated with a positive successful entrepreneurial mind, that set an example for him of what was possible for him. He had clear evidence in his face of the possibilities of success and it gave him the confidence to know that HE COULD DO IT TO. The confidence enabled him to GO DO IT TOO.

 

5He who is not courageous) GET IN THE GAME (LUCK IS WHEN PREPARATION MEETS OPPORTUNITY)

When that kid went home that night and told his friend that he made more than the $40 that she made, if he told the story about me giving him the $20 if his friend was like most people she probably said “Oh you just got lucky”.  I have learned that LUCK IS WHEN PREPARATION MEETS OPPORTUNITY!  I have learned that THE HARDER YOU WORK, THE LUCKIER YOU GET! If that kid was at home or decided to “Take a break” or if he was at home watching cartoons or playing video games or if  he was at home procrastinating saying “Well I’m just going to spend today designing my sign today or perfecting my recipe and I will wait until tomorrow to actually sell the lemonade. If that kid had been doing anything other than out there selling his lemonade at the time I drove up, we would have missed each other. He was ONLY LUCKY BECAUSE HE WAS OUT THERE, HE WAS PREPARED AND HE WAS IN THE GAME!

 

6) DONT BE SCARED TO FAIL

There are absolutely no guarantees that because you are a cute little kid selling lemonade that people are going to buy it from you. He wasn’t the only lemonade stand in town. We are in a tough economy. He is going up against the big guys like Country Time, Newman’s Own , Minute Maid etc. They got pink lemonade and raspberry and peach flavored lemonade . With sugar concerns and health consciousness on the rise many a little kid lemonade stand folds and goes under everyday.  There is more evidence or more reasons for this kid to stay home and not even try. All of the evidence says kid you’re gonna fail, don’t even try. But, evidence be damned! This kid was prepared, he believed, he set a goal and he hit it. PLEASE DO NOT BE SCARED TO FAIL!

I can go on and on about this little kid, but I think you get the point. As you think about your dreams and plans and goals. There will be obstacles, roadblocks, disappointments and setbacks etc. BUT NONE GREAT ENOUGH TO STOP YOU FROM ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS OR TURNING YOUR DREAMS TO REALITY! So when it gets tough, when it gets difficult, when you think about giving up, DONT! Just keep thinking and shouting out in your mind “LEMONADE, LEMONADE, GET YOUR ICE-COLD LEMONADE” AND KEEP GOING!if you even dream of beating me

 

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”

-Thomas Jefferson

THE WORLD IS YOURS!

 

PEACE!

 

 

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THE PROBLEM ISN’T THE PROBLEM!

 

Elephant Charge

One thing that I have learned is that if you don’t control your own thoughts and force yourself to stay positive, its extremely easy to get caught up in the negativity that seems to prevail and govern our society.  So to try to stay away from adopting a negative mindset I try to read and listen to as many positive stories and messages as possible. One of the stories I read recently that happened to stay with me was the story about the Elephant and the rope and I couldn’t wait to share it.

The story is about this guy who was walking past some elephants one day that were extremely large, and because the size of the elephants the man was baffled by what he saw. As the man was walking he suddenly stopped, he was confused by the fact that these 5,000, 10,000, 15,000 pound creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg which was tied to a wooden stake that was hammered into the ground. How was this possible the man thought. How could something so large and powerful like a 10,000 pound elephant, be held captive by something so small and frail like a small rope? No big heavy steel chains were necessary, no cages were necessary. The man couldn’t believe this. It just didn’t make any sense to him. It was obvious that the elephants were big and strong enough that at anytime THEY CHOSE could simply start walking and they could easily break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

Seeing this site baffled the man. He needed to know how this was possible. He needed answers, so he saw the elephant trainer nearby and he asked the trainer why these large, massive, extremely powerful and strong creatures just stood there and made no attempt to get away even though they could easily break away and free themselves anytime they so chose. The trainer explained to the man, that when the elephants are very young and much smaller around 150 pounds or so they use the same size rope and tied to a stake hammered into the ground to keep them in place. When they are that age the small rope is enough to hold them. While they are little and As they are growing up they whine and they tug at the rope and some even try to chew at it to break free. No matter what they do to try to try to escape, the rope holds them back. After a few years of trying and failing the elephants are mentally conditioned to believe that as long as they have this small rope tied to them they will never be able to break free. They believe that the rope can still hold them, so by the time that they become big powerful massive adults they have given up and they don’t even try to break free anymore.

The man was blown away. These large powerful animals could at any time break free from these bonds that were holding them back, but because THEY BELIEVE that they can’t, they don’t even bother to try anymore. Eventually the elephant gives up and the fight is over. From this moment the elephant decides to just give in because in its mind, it will never be free.

Whats holding you backReading this story brought an interesting question to mind. How many of us, as big and powerful and as mighty and as powerful as we are, who are capable of amazing and mighty feats, are being held in place by small tiny ropes. How many of us have tried to pursue goals or dreams and maybe it didn’t work out on the first try, and we are walking around saying “well, I tried once and it didn’t work out” but have never bothered to try again? How many of us have said “what’s the use in trying? I’ll never be able to ___.” or “Every time I try to ___, something goes wrong” or “I don’t have a college degree or the right connections” or “I don’t have this or that, I will never be able to ___.” How many of us tell ourselves this stuff and as a result we never even bother to try to move from where we are. We accept limitations that exist only in our minds and we become captive and a prisoner to our own thoughts.

I’m here to tell you that our own thoughts are but a small thin rope tied to our mighty legs. When WE SO CHOOSE to start walking towards our destination those little ropes will snap and we will be able to return to our KINGDOMS to live the lives that we were DESTINED, DESIGNED AND PUT HERE TO LIVE. All you have to do is say THESE ROPES CAN’T HOLD ME, AND START WALKING TOWARDS OUR DESTINATIONS. It isn’t the weak flimsy string that holds the elephant back. It’s the elephants mind and the power that the elephant gives that weak flimsy string that holds it back. It’s all in the elephants mind.  Just like that elephant, it isn’t our past failures or defeats, it isn’t our lack of a college degree or high school diploma, or family backgrounds or our pasts, or our upbringing etc that holds us back, WHAT HOLDS US BACK IS THE POWER WE GIVE THOSE THINGS. OUR LIMITATIONS ARE ONLY IN OUR MINDS. ITS OUR WEAK AND FLIMSY THOUGHTS THAT HOLD US BACK. THEY ARE LIMITATIONS ONLY BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT WE CALL THEM!

Try to remember that…

OUR PROBLEMS ARENT THE PROBLEM. OUR REACTION AND OUR ATTITUDES ABOUT ARE PROBLEMS ARE USUALLY THE PROBLEM!

START WALKING! BREAK THE ROPES!

THE WORLD IS YOURS!

“HE WHO SAYS HE CAN AND HE WHO SAYS HE CAN’T ARE BOTH USUALLY RIGHT!”

-Confucius

WHAT DO YOU SAY?

PEACE!

 

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“LIKE” IT OR NOT

 

Like it or not

While some people dismiss Facebook as just a social media site, I actually like Facebook because there are certain similarities to life . I started using Social media during the period of time when my daughter was extremely sick in the hospital, as a way to keep myself feeling encouraged and positive. Over the years I have posted things on social media websites such as Facebook and I try to be as positive and motivational and encouraging as possible. Sometimes the things I say no matter how encouraging or positive don’t get a huge amount of “likes”. Most of the time people wont “like” or even comment on the things that I say on Facebook. But,  there have been times when I have actually physically gone to Yonkers or White Plains or various parts of Connecticut or the Bronx or wherever I have friends. I have had people who I would run into that I know personally tell me that some of the things that I may have said or posted over the years on Facebook has had a positive impact on them. Some people have actually said to me “please keep on doing what you’re doing”. Some people tell me that I have actually made a difference in their lives and that I have had a positive impact on their lives. My main mission since I have been on Facebook and any of these social media sites has been to MOTIVATE those individuals who have found their purpose in life to keep pushing, and to keep moving forward until they succeed and make their dreams reality. My other mission has been to encourage and INSPIRE those who haven’t yet found their purpose to keep looking for it and to not give up until they have found it. Sometimes, I dig deep to try to find the right words to MOTIVATE and INSPIRE others. Once I think I have found the words I share them on my blog and on Facebook and other social media sites. There have been times when nobody would click like and I would think to myself this is stupid and a waste of time, nobody clicks like, nobody comments, nobody is even paying attention. I give up on this whole positivity, motivation and inspirational thing. This is stupid, I will just motivate and encourage myself. What good is trying to motivate and inspire others if nobody is even listening or paying attention.

What I have learned is that just because nobody clicks “like”, just because nobody comments, that doesn’t mean that people aren’t listening or paying attention. I have learned that just because people don’t respond in the way that you want them or expect them to respond, it doesn’t mean that your words are wasted. The people who I have run across in real life who have told me the impact that some of my words have had are people who never responded to me at all on Facebook. Sometimes I have forgotten that I am even “Friends” with them on Facebook because they never respond and I never hear from them on Facebook. But, when I see them in real life, they will tell me the impact that my words may have had on them. There have been instances where people I don’t even know have “liked” or commented on things that I have posted to Facebook or have even approached me in the street because of something I have said on Facebook.

I guess my point is just because a person doesn’t click “like” or just because a person doesn’t comment on something you say on Facebook or just because a person doesn’t immediately get up and enroll in college or get their GED, or just because a person doesn’t immediately get up and pursue their dreams, just because your child doesn’t start immediately getting good grades, or immediately change their behavior JUST BECAUSE A PERSON DOESNT RESPOND IN THE WAY THAT YOU WANT THEM TO RESPOND, OR THEY DONT RESPOND IN THE WAY THAT YOU WANT THEM TO RESPOND, IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ARE NOT LISTENING TO YOU, IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ARENT PAYING ATTENTION. IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE NOT HAVING AN IMPACT ON THEM. I HAVE LEARNED THAT WHETHER THEY “LIKE”  IT OR NOT SOMEONE IS ALWAYS WATCHING YOU, SOMEONE IS ALWAYS LISTENING TO YOU WHETHER YOU KNOW IT OR NOT. Being that someone is always watching and always listening to you, I encourage you to try to make ALL of your words to others as POSITIVE, MOTIVATIONAL, ENCOURAGING and INSPIRATIONAL as possible. You never know if the person who is listening to you or watching you is on the verge of quitting, giving up or even committing suicide and YOUR WORDS to them are their deciding factor.

It is with our tongues and our words do we have the power and the ability to BUILD or DESTROY! We have the power to GIVE LIFE or TAKE LIFE! What do you say we BUILD? What do you say we GIVE LIFE!

I have learned to….

Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.
-Napoleon Hill

“Talk happiness; talk faith; talk health. Say you are well, and all is well with you, and God shall hear your words and make them true.”
-Ella Wheeler Wilcox
LIFE AND DEATH ARE IN THE POWER OF THE TONGUE!
PEACE!
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WHAT YOU CAN’T SEE!

Iceberg

I’m really into sciences and all that stuff, so one night I read this article about icebergs. I learned that icebergs are pieces of ice that formed on land and float in an ocean or lake. Icebergs vary in shapes and sizes, they can range from ice-cube-sized chunks to ice islands the size of a small country. In order to be considered an actual “iceberg” it must measure at least 16 feet across on top. The tip or top of the Iceberg or the part that you can actually see above the surface is the smallest part. So as big as an Iceberg may appear on top, there is so much more below the surface that you cannot see.

As I am reading this it made me think about when we look at other people and we compare our lives to other people’s lives. When we compare our cars to other people’s cars and our wardrobes to other people’s and our jobs and careers to other people’s. Comparing our lives and our circumstances Its kinda like looking at an iceberg. You may see the money and the car and the job or the life that another person has. That is “The tip of the Iceberg”. Because what you can’t see or don’t know is that the person who you look at and envy their job or career, you couldn’t see the hours, days, weeks, months or years of work and neglecting their families that they had to put into it. You can’t see that maybe they have a horrible home life because they neglected their families and put their careers over their families and that they are on the verge of divorce and their children don’t want anything to do with them. You didn’t know or couldn’t see that the person who drives that big fancy car that you envy, lost a parent, child, spouse or a loved one and got the money to buy that car in a life insurance settlement. That person whose wardrobe that you admire and wish you had, you couldn’t see that their children have no food in the refrigerator and the bills and past due notices and shut off notices are stacked up and that they are on the verge of eviction just so that they can “look” good.  That person you know who seems to have the “Perfect” spouse who is so good looking and “appears” to be perfect and you just envy that persons relationship. But, what you can’t see is that person who has that perfect spouse that and perfect relationship that you envy, is on their third trip to rehab because they are helping that “perfect” spouse or mate deal with an addiction to drugs or alcohol. Or you can’t see how that “perfect” spouse mentally, verbally or physically abuses that person you envy so much behind closed doors.

I have learned that people are like icebergs, what you can’t see, the part that is buried and hidden, is way bigger than the part that you can see (the surface). What you can see is NOTHING in comparison to what you can’t see or what you don’t know. I have learned that when it comes to life and measuring our own individual progress in life. We are best if we only compared ourselves to ourselves. We are best if we set our own individual goals and had our own individual dreams and that’s what we use to measure how successful we are in life. Use your own personal goals and dreams as a bench mark to determine where you are in life. You don’t know enough about anybody else’s life or circumstances to be comparing your life and circumstances to. There is no way to accurately judge yourself or your success in life by measuring it against others. You don’t have enough information. How would you solve the math problem 7 + __ = __?  You will NEVER have enough information to fill in the blanks of other  people’s lives. Are you willing to go through what they have gone through to get what they got? Are you willing to accept the “bad” that comes along with their “good”? Are you willing to give up what they gave up to get what they got?

Just KNOW that YOU are beautiful if YOU say YOU are. YOU are successful if YOU say YOU are. YOU are a winner if YOU say YOU are! NO ONES LIFE SHOULD BE ABLE TO DEFINE YOUR LIFE BUT YOURS!

A wise woman once told me that….

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” ~Maya Angelou

A wise man once told me…

I cannot say this too strongly: Do not compare yourselves to others. Be true to who you are, and continue to learn with all your might. – Daisaku Ikeda

another wise man once told me that ….

Comparison is a trap. It will kill our joy. It will rob us of our peace. It makes us act foolish and stupid. It creates terrible tension in our relationships with others. So here’s what you need to focus on: Let God use you the way he sees fit to do so. – Kurt W. Bubna

You get the point.

THE ONLY COMPARISON YOU SHOULD BE MAKING OF YOURSELF IS, COMPARING YOU TO THE YOU YOU WERE YESTERDAY AND THE DAY BEFORE AND THE DAY BEFORE AND MAKING SURE THAT YOU TODAY, IS BETTER THAN THE YOU YOU WERE YESTERDAY. IF YOU KNEW LIKE I KNEW YOU WOULD CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE! THE WORLD IS YOURS!

 

PEACE!

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